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"Sometime in your life you will go on a journey.
It will be the longest journey you have ever taken.
It is the journey to find yourself."
                                       - Katherine Sharp

 

 

 

 

We, at PASSAGES, have formulated self-help exercises aimed
at a more profound appreciation of YOUR OWN SELF.
 The questions are not intended to be judgmental or threatening
to you in any way and the responses are entirely for your own reflections.

WORKSHEETS

BEHAVIOUR     COMMUNICATION     DEPRESSION     SELF-ESTEEM      STRESS



TEENAGE BEHAVIOUR

Teenage Behaviour
Parents' reactions

Rationale for
Teenage Behaviour
Parental Approach
Debates every issue
Argumentative
Is broadening his/her intellectual interests
Look at your offspring
as a young adult
Neglects School Work
Unable to identify child's potential
Developing newer interests in non-academic subjects - sports, music, painting
Recognise child's latent abilities (potential densification)
Becomes
socially and physically independent and adventurous
discouraging
Taking risks, testing bones
Make aware of safety precautions
Commits to social or political cause
Distressed
accepting new ideals and beliefs
Allow the new freedom within limits
Exhibits temper and lack of confidence
Financial dependence
Having anxiety and uncertainity about the future
Prepare to be self reliant financially. Encourage saving from allowances
Going steady
Worry about commitment and effect on work
Ability to form a stable sexual relationship
Share feelings and show concern and understanding
Leaves family and home
Feeling lonely. Adjusting to no longer being full time parent
Ready to be independent
Retain contact with adult children in a healthy way

Sourced from "ADOLESCENCE" by Elizabeth Fenwick and Dr. Tony Smith     TOP

COMMUNICATION

This worksheet may be used to evaluate a relationship with either spouse, friend, family member or colleague.
The questions have been designed to help you reflect on your communicative skills and are intended only for your own personal use.


Tick off in the appropriate column on the right side. The nos. 0, 1, 2 indicate your score.

DO YOU: 
0
1
2
1.
Suppress or conceal your feelings of hurt?
2.
Find yourself involved in conflicts and arguments?
3.
Consider yourself a bad communicator?
4.
Avoid physical demonstrations of hugging and patting?
5.
Respond to criticism with criticism?
6.
Sulk or withdraw when upset?
7.
Demonstrate negative feelings by hitting or flinging?
8.
Find it a bore to hear about another's problems?
9.
Resort to verbal abuse when frustrated?
10.
Recognize your venting of anger on an innocent person?
Sum up your score and refer to the Scoring Key.
   

  0 -   7    You are satisfied in your relationships and can balance emotions
              in a healthy manner.
  8 - 13    Look at certain relations which evoke a negative response and remember -
              you FEEL the way you THINK
14 - 20    Enhance your Communicative skills.   

The following list may help you identify certain habits that complicate your relationships.

1.       BLAMING the other person.
2.       DENYING your true feelings of anger, hurt or sadness.
3.       WITHDRAWING - also known as PASSIVE AGGRESSION.
4.       HOPELESSNESS  and giving up on a situation or relationship.

Researched from 'The Feeling Good Handbook" - David D. Burns, M.D.
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DEPRESSION

Tick off in the appropriate column on the right hand side.The numbers 0, 1, 2 indicate your score.

0 0
Rarely
Sometimes
Very Often
0 DO YOU:
0
1
2
1. Feel sad about the present? 0 0 0
2. Feel unenthusiastic about the future?
 0 0 0
3. Cry easily for no apparent reason? 0 0 0
4. Either over-eat excessively or
avoid eating completely?		 0 0 0
5. Worry excessively about your health? 0 0 0
6. Have disturbed sleep? 0 0 0
7. Have frequent headaches or migraines? 0 0 0
8. Get rashes/ acne/eczema? 0 0 0
9. Feel angry or resentful? 0 0 0
10. Feel disinterested in your
friends, family or career?		 0 0 0
Sum up your score and refer to the Scoring Key

  0 -   5  =  Minimal or no depression.
  6 - 10  =  Borderline to mild depression.
11 - 15  =  Moderate depression.
16 - 20  =  Severe depression.

To help differentiate between HEALTHY feeling versus UNHEALTHY feeling,
we have outlined a few parameters:

1) Sadness does not affect self-esteem.
2) Feelings of sadness are in proportion to an event, unlike depression.
3) Sad feelings recede, depression does not.
4) Sadness is not discouraging : depression is demoralizing.

In conclusion, try and remember that - Happiness is not unusual . We just think it is!
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SELF-ESTEEM

Tick off in the appropriate column on the right hand side. The numbers 0, 1, 2 indicate your score

0
Rarely
Sometimes
Very often
DO YOU:
0
1
2
1. Regret the passage of time and
the loss of youth?		 0 0 0
2. Avoid meeting people socially? 0 0 0
3. Feel like breaking out of your set image? 0 0 0
4. Experience mood swings? 0 0 0
5. Do things out of anger, fear or stress
that you would not normally do?		 0 0 0
6. Feel that your life is not in your own control?
 0 0 0
7. Feel inadequate or inferior to others? 0 0 0
8. Resent your work either within or ouside the home? 0 0 0
9. Experience guilt pangs and impose self-blame? 0 0 0
10. Fear being alone, abandoned or rejected? 0 0 0
Sum up your score and refer to the Scoring Key

  0 -   5  =  You are confident and self assured
  6 - 10  =  Wavering self-confidence
11 - 15  =  Look at feeling good.
16 - 20  =  Work on your self image and remember to appreciate yourself.
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STRESS
To some, it is something physical that they have experienced; to others it is a response of mind and body. While stress does involve an event and our responses to it, what makes the difference in every individual is COGNITION - put simply - a thought.

This means that our thoughts have an influence on the way we feel. When we feel low, we generate negative thoughts, which in turn, create negative feelings. Therefore, identifying and changing these negative thoughts into positive ones, can then change our feelings and hence, our state of mind.

Our PERCEPTION and REACTION to a "stressful" event determines our HEALTH - Physical and Emotional.

RECOGNIZING ANXIETY AND STRESS

Tick off in the appropriate column on the right hand side. The numbers 0, 1, 2 indicate your score.
oo
Rarely
Sometimes
Very Often
DO YOU:
0
1
2
1. Feel stressed, tense or edgy? 0 0 0
2. Blow things out of proportion? 0 0 0
3. Have racing thoughts? 0 0 0
4. Fail to see humour in situations that
others find funny? 		0 0 0
5. Feel unable to concentrate on a task at hand? 0 0 0
6. Experience panic attacks or palpitations? 0 0 0
7. Have hot flushes and cold chills? 0 0 0
8. Have tight, tense and aching muscles? 0 0 0
9. Have sweating bouts, not brought on by heat? 0 0 0
10. Avoid stress relieving techniques,
like yoga, meditation and massage?		 0 0 0
Sum up your score and refer to the Scoring Key

  0 -   5  =  You are doing fine!
  6 - 10  =  Although things are in control, you tend to get anxious and hassled
11 - 15  =  You are probably already suffering from stress related symptoms.
16 - 20  =  STOP NOW! Take a deep breath, explore relaxation methods

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